So some of you may be asking – what is a First Look anyway? It’s the moment where you get to see each other for the first time in your wedding attire before the ceremony. Now there are a few things you should consider when deciding whether or not to do a First Look.
Depending on the season and when the sun sets, you may want to consider a First Look. For Winter weddings, I recommend doing a First Look 99% of the time because of the fact that the sun sets so early and you should take advantage of the light earlier in the day. If you’re doing a brunch wedding, then it’s totally optional. For Summer weddings, it’s really up to you two. If it makes sense for your timeline and makes your day easier, then it’s worth it!
Here’s Why I Love A First Look:
- They’re romantic, intimate, private and full of emotion.
- It gives you the opportunity to share a unique, private moment with each other all to yourselves before the wedding day is in full swing.
- It helps to calm each others nerves before you walk down the aisle in front of everyone.
- More opportunities for photos of you two. This ensures we get a ton! Plus, you both will be looking your freshest with hair, makeup and the works done.
- It allows you the flexibility to get your couples portraits and wedding party photos out of the way before ceremony, rather than it interfering with the flow of engaging with guests after your ceremony. So after ceremony all that’s left to take are family photos, and then you, your family and your bridal party will be able to head to cocktail hour or your reception much quicker and the rest of your guests aren’t waiting around as long.
I personally love first looks. Timelines seem to be way less stressful when everything is done before the ceremony! Plus, it gives you the opportunity to spend more of your day together. It’s also the perfect time where you two can privately have a moment together on your wedding day and let all the feelings sink in without having a bunch of distractions around you. You can exchange letters or gifts during this time if you want. This is also a great trial run of you walking around and moving in your dress before you have to walk down the aisle in front of everyone at your ceremony.
I never force my couples to do a first look but I know the ones that do have never regretted it.
Not Doing A First Look
Some couples prefer the first time they see each other is when walking down the aisle. For Catholic Weddings, most of the time there is no first look unless it really speaks to your heart. Some couples like to keep the tradition of not seeing each other before ceremony. Regardless, even if you opt for no first look, you can still enjoy a private moment behind a door or on opposite sides of a wall if you wish. You can hold hands, exchange letters – but no peeking! Some couples enjoy doing something unique to them during this moment. Like playing a song on the guitar that they wrote for their soon-to-be spouse, for example.
If you decide not to do a first look, most of your formal photos will be taken after ceremony. So make sure you have a cocktail hour or entertainment scheduled for your guests so they can mingle and enjoy drinks and appetizers while you’re getting your photos taken.
Again, it’s something you two should discuss and figure out what is most important to you two and also what fits your day best.